Hi Rechu,

I sympathize with you. I am going through strange feelings also after my mother-in-law died. I lived with her for a few years, and she was highly critical of me. I could not talk to her in private because she would twist my words or try to read my thoughts through my words. Instead of numbness, I feel anger. The living room is full of pictures that remind me of her. I sought some therapy, because it is hard for me to "be there" for my husband and my brother-in-law, who also live with us. My brother-in-law is the one who is unwilling to take down the pictures, so I get upset with him every day. I know there is nothing I can do about it except to get therapy.


I applaud you for setting up boundaries. Distancing yourself from your mom makes sense. However, if you just decide not to follow up on her at all, you might feel guilty later. I am sorry to hear about your dog and your mom. That is a lot to deal with at one time. Therapy would help you deal with grief. You are feeling grief now, and not everyone experiences grief the same way at the same time.