I'm so sorry you're dealing with such family issues. It would horrible if they judged you because of your disability. That's just plain mean.

I hope you don't put up with your daughter calling you names. Perhaps the other members of your "family" can get away with it, but your daughter needs to know that such talk to a parent is not appropriate. Especially if you're not in the habit of such name calling. Don't get me wrong, I have grievances against my dad and show anger towards him occasionally, but I'd never call him a bad name...at least not to his face.