Is implying that you are suggesting that one should be polite. I dont' know many people that would take that statement any other way. you're giving your own example of what you would do, which is, in any other conversation a way of giving a suggestion so I dont' think that I was out of context by saying what I did.


I don't disagree with your contrast from posting an ad or watching or looking at porn is not the same but I feel you missed some of the context in the original post since it was stated in the first post that he already had met with the guy and that via emails she found that he was planning to meet him again, so while your statement about posting an ad is not cheating - though obviously the intent is there if one does post an ad... but that's obvious, but it wasn't simply talking nor viewing or posting but actual cheating that happened.

so as the rest of your post, it kind of falls under the same thing. the OP mentioned up front that she knows he met with the guy...

I don't believe for a second in remaining with anyone prone to deceit in the form of cheating that cheats. so yes I stand firm in the belief that walking away from a cheater is the best idea.

*edited for clarity*