Great link, Perna! It opened up to "Pathologizing." I only read the first few sentences and couldn't read any more.

I'm having an anger/trigger issue with one of my neighbors. Patholigizing means not separating the person from the issues. At this point in time, there's no way I can separate the woman from the issues she brings up in me. She doesn't even have to talk to me or look at me and I'm pissed as hell at her.

Definitely something I need to work on, but not right now.