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Originally Posted by piggy momma
I think that when we are looking at the emotions we experience in therapy, we need to remember that when we are talking to our therapists, they are humans too, and deserve respect. I have been very, very upset with my therapist many times. It's part of the therapeutic process. It's gonna happen. They know it and we know it. However, I don't think that being rude, insulting, or arrogant is ever permissible. Before you hit "send" on that email, ask yourself if there is a better way to state what you are feeling. For me, I have started journalling, and it lets me get all my emotions out in whatever way I see fit, and then I can sort out the facts and state the facts to my therapist. Facts can contain feelings.. ."I am angry with you because you made me feel like this" "I am feeling hurt by your comment that..." etc.
As someone who is in school to be a psychologist, please, just please, don't be rude or insulting. They don't deserve it and most won't put up with it.
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I agree with you for the most part, and in the rest of my life I’m extremely polite, considerate, etc. I have always been that way. Maybe I’m exploring something new in my therapy relationship like it’s ok to have strong emotions and express them and know I won’t be rejected (at least by my T) for having them. As far as being angry/petulant/bratty with my T, I think, although it’s a new dynamic for me, I’m probably not as hardcore as perhaps I express on PC. Even my recent “F U” email was peppered with politeness and will likely be followed by a more thoughtful email. I will eventually apologize and he will likely validate my feelings. I guess my take on all of this is that we all have different needs from therapy. Some of us might need to experience being petulant/bratty, etc and maybe it’s not such a bad thing in the big picture.