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Originally Posted by piggy momma
Well, if you provide an ultimatum, you need to be prepared for the consequences. Your T will likely tell you he'll see you in two weeks then. Giving in to your ultimatum would be rewarding bad behaviour.
Is there another way to frame this?
Can you send your T an email, explain that you are aware he doesn't reply to emails outside of session, but you felt this was important enough that it warranted sending. Tell him you are willing to pay him for his time should he be willing to reply, and that you appreciate him taking the time to read it, either way.
Why not try working with him, instead of against him? It's ok to be mad at him - we all get mad at our Ts from time to time, but why not work through that anger with skills instead of pettiness?
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You are right. I won’t likely send an ultimatum, but it was satisfying to think about. I certainly journal quite a bit, and posting on PC is helpful too. Thankfully he has made it abundantly clear that he reads my emails in great detail, although he won’t respond (even if I offer to pay him). Although it seems from this post that I’m working against him, I’m not a hater, I actually like him very much although there is definitely something I’m working through here. My “skills” are probably ridiculously honed, and expressing emotions is where I’m really weak, so I suspect that even if it comes off as petty it will be a step in the right direction. I agree, though, that expressing anger/frustration is one thing, and sending an ultimatum is not going to be helpful even if it was momentarily satisfying.