I just bumped into an example of a similar deal for me, and wonder what you think about it?

I'm a good cook. I wasn't born a good cook, but at some point in my life I decided that enjoying good food was something that I wanted to learn and share. I work at being in an emotional/ mental space to create and cook good meals.

Guest to my cooking come in three extremes: the ones that sit themselves down passively with WhatsApp still open on their mobile don't last long: the ones that visit again and again applauding my cooking but never contribute; the ones that give me most pleasure are the ones that come along and share preparation, ask questions, bring ingredients.

I have strong feelings about how people receive my cooking. I've recently had a guest in the middle category = appreciated vigourously but do nothing to contribute, for two weeks.

In the global scale of things, as I imagine for your solo performances, this isn't a big deal but it is something that I have strong feelings about.

Do you see what I'm saying? Does my "deal" look different from the outside, to what your "deal" looks like to you from the inside????!!!*** Crucial question.

Saidso