I never emailed with my therapists; it just wasn't something they offered and I didn't know it was a "thing," a possibility, so it was a non-issue. If I needed to communicate something to my therapist between sessions, I had to pick up the phone and speak to them directly.

I'm actually glad that phone conversation was really ever my only option. I knew if I picked up that phone, I had to have an actual conversation, so I took the time to think it through before I did so. For me, I think if email had been an option, it would have been too tempting to use it like a "drive by;" shoot off my mouth and run, knowing the consequences weren't immediate. And then I would have been stewing about what they thought or would they respond. Sounds too anxiety-laden for me.

I've had people do that via email to me (the joys of being a teacher), so I know how truly ineffective email is in dealing with highly charged emotional situations. Nothing really gets discussed, one person is misunderstanding the words of the other or simply using the impersonal method of communication to emotionally vent in a way that cuts of actual dialogue because they aren't really wanting to hear anything but their own voice. Things get built up in their heads in the meantime, waiting for a response that they often misinterpret anyway, and the situation escalates rather than resolving. I've learned to just pick up the phone and call; it de-escalates so many situations to just have a conversation, even just a few minutes, where both parties and talk, ask questions, clarify, and come to some sort of plan.

What would happen if you, instead of emailing, actually picked up the phone to call your therapist and spoke to him for a few minutes about the need to talk about your reaction to this change next time you have a session? How different would it be to actually express that need and allow him to dialogue with you for a few minutes so that you can both clarify your communication in real time? Maybe two minutes on the phone would actually be more calming and communicative than throwing out an email and being left to stew about the unfairness of the limitations of emails.

Something to think about maybe?