Thread: Ultimatum for T
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Old Dec 14, 2018, 12:11 PM
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Has anyone every given their therapist an ultimatum? My T and I don’t really talk about child parts, but from what I’ve read, I am keenly aware that I’m behaving like demanding and bratty child. Please humor me though. I went to therapy on Wednesday and that unleashed all sorts of emotions that I’d like to just touch base with my T about, but about a month ago he said he would no longer respond to my emails. So he stirred the pot, then left me on my own to deal with all sorts of emotions that arose during our session. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to request a quick email to help me figure this out or to at least hold me over till our next session. I feel like telling him that if he doesn’t reply to my email then I won’t come to our session next week. Huge, bratty acting out, I know. But I’m mad and it feels good to think about at least.
I've never given any of my T's an ultimatum and the T that kept giving me an ultimatum, well that relationship only lasted four sessions because I didn't like feeling bullied into doing something that I wasn't ready to do. I think give and take is a good course of action usually. I know sometimes it seems like it would feel good in the moment, and it might, but the aftermath might be a mess. Just my two cents. Kit.