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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty
Thanks. When I had asked originally on email if she would be willing to wait for me, she said yes. However, there was no discussion of how long she would be willing to wait. And that may have been what we needed to talk more about. As it turned out, even though we were 15 minutes early, the viewing was already going on, so the wait would have been maybe 15 minutes total. I do know this friend is not a good "wait-er"--she doesn't like to wait. I was surprised she had originally said she was willing to wait. But I took her at her word. Bottom line is that we should have discussed more than a yes/no answer it seems like, and I know now, not to count on this friend when it involves inconveniencing her. I can still be friends with her knowing that, it just means that to protect myself, I can't equate care with her waiting, because its not going to happen. I still feel like I give more in the relationship and that's something that I need to figure out how much I am willing to give. Kit
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a couple things I would say. Good assessment you made there, not to rely on her for things that would require something like this. But depending on how the rest of the friendship is, that is what would determine whether or not there is significance to this particular tendency of hers. For some people we can overlook their quirks and behaviors if everything else they are to us matters more. In this case it sounds like she doesn't contribute as much as you would like to the relationship so perhaps in the grand scheme of things it's not a relationship to keep investing too much into.