Looks is not as important. Being independent & able to take or leave guys puts you in control rather than being a victim of some guys whim. A much safer place to be.

Also having rules of who you are willing to get involved with. On my list is "NO MARRIED MAN" no matter how much they tell me they are going to get a divorce. Don't waste my time until you are duvorced then IF I am still available at that time I will determine my interest then. Having boundaries/ rules to live by definitely saves a lot of grief.