Perhaps you are talking about two different men as your posts contradict each other. Yes he maybe is capable of responding to your messages and not hiding from you and he is probably capable of seeing you and being a couple. But he doesn’t do any of it. In reality none of it is happening. You wanting things to be certain way doesn’t make it so.

Good therapy could help you to develop better understanding of good relationship as well as healthy self respect. Your actions towards this man aren’t showing any self respect.

I understand you are in love. But it doesn’t mean you need to lose self respect or be in pain. Love doesn’t need to be pain or desperation. You don’t need to be putting up wuth nonsense or degrade yourself just because you are in love. Love doesn’t equate pain and desperation.