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Originally Posted by ReRe54
My husband was driving. He literally drives around the parking lot TEN TIMES.....pulling into different parking spots he then decides not to stay in that spot for whatever reason: it is too close to the other car. The next spot there is a car when we get into it that has a smashed in door. He then decides that he does not want to park there due to the fact they probably won't care if they hit our car door when getting into their car and thus moves on to find another spot. This went on for quite a while after the tenth time I yelled just ******* park the car or let's just go back to the house!
I am feeling like such a loser. I love him so much and life without him would be terrible. I did not realize that he felt I was treating him badly about the bipolar or OCD. I know we are under a huge amount of stress. I know we love each other. I just need to figure out how to NOT explode like this again. I need some advice.
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Welcome to PC ReRe!
Dealing with family and unemployment is stressful and can really test a marriage. Been there. Finding a job and limiting contact with unsupportive family members will help. I hope you find another job because a good job (one that you like and do well at) can really boost your self esteem and having an income gives you a lot more resources to deal with your problems.
Keep searching for another job. Does your spouse work as well?
Since you have been married ten years, if you think about it, you know many of the situations that cause discord between the two of you. Could you do the driving instead of your spouse? Yes, yelling is very damaging to a relationship (and if you feel impatient in other situations such as at work, that's not good either
) so you need to figure out how to get that under control. Perhaps medication, therapy or just a long talk with your partner including a heart felt apology?