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Originally Posted by leomama
I understand that you’ve been through some trauma. My fiancé also has aspergers and from what I’ve read that can cause someone to be abusive. I also have ptsd and my mother has also accused me of being abusive, although in my case she was abusive to me as a child and there is a record of that.
It takes a lot for a spouse of a person with aspergers to support their partner and hang in there with them.
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I had a dad who had aspergers long before the dx ever existed & martied a guy I lived with who also had undisgnosed aspergers....long before dx was ever known about in the US. I know exactly the problems it creates though each person is totally different in how it manifests itself in a relationship. I also know that the more problens that one has themselves the less able they are to be the kind of support needed.
I can also tell you that after 54 years of living around that.....I finally found peace in my life when I finally left.
So you want to continue your life of feeling abused by those around you? What possible reason could you have to knowingly make that choice. You love feeling abused? What makes you think you even have the necessary skills to deal with a partner like that?