Of course it’s possible to be in a relationship with people with ASD (or any disorder) and it’s possible to be ok. But you are neither in the relationship with him nor you are ok.

No it’s not wrong to love anyone. How much of it is a reality though? Or just loving a fantasy? You saw this man hand full of times in that many years. One time in the past three years. And before that it was always a struggle to get him to see you. How much do you know him?

Plus if the guy broke up wuth you, you two aren’t in a relationship and he isn’t with you, forcing him to be with you isn’t accomplishing anything. Insisting he needs to come back to you because you want him to isn’t going to make it so. It doesn’t matter what he has or how much you want him to do things differently. He isn’t doing it. That’s the bottom line. You can spend another 6 years pursuing him or you can stop now.

Does your therapist or psychiatrist have any opinion on this?