LT

I get that, except, in my case, he literally DID share all kinds of personal stuff with me, AND my friend, who he also was chummy with. She even said "I know more about your therapist than I do the people I work with and I've worked here for 4 years"

We have gone "out of office" for stuff and it felt so natural, and while it was "for therapy" in MOST cases, some it was not, technically... although he's trying to claim that now. The game we played on the final day, people would LOSE THEIR MINDS if they knew a therapist did that with a client, especially because it wasn't our first time playing it.

that being said, I'm well aware that he could be different in some ways, he is probably actually more pissy.... but I am also a very accepting person. I can separate the stuff in the room VS other things... and to be honest not much "drama" happened in the room. 90% of the time we just talked about casual stuff or laughed and screwed around. It already felt like more of a friendship than anything. I even told him that....

I mean, in a sense I get that, because a lot of T's don't share super personal stuff or don't express emotions with clients, and some clients view T's as "perfect" or whatever, so it could be shocking but this is why I struggle with some of the rules, because they don't "FIT" everyone, they just assume we all are the same.

For me. I feel like I lost a good friend, not "a therapist" and I out right told him, I've only ever seen you as (INSERT NAME) the man I've gotten to know, not as a therapist.

And yes I would have no chance of seeing him again, I asked him 4 times in the last few sessions about if he would ever do therapy again and he said its very unlikely, he is so miserable with it and in all the therapy jobs he has had, none of them "felt right" so he thinks it's time to move on from that field. He won't outright say never but he thinks he is more likely to win the lottery.

*And side note... of course people can change or be different than expected, family or friends included. It's hugely why I never "get to really know" anyone because I've seen people be fake so so often with others* Also, I'm not trying to sound rude to you, just trying to say, yes I get what your saying but here's why it doesn't really fit for me or make sense completely