No it is not wrong to love someone with aspergers but it is wrong to stay in an abusive relationship for any reason.


Not all people with ASD are abusive especially not in the way this guy is....but he has proved what he is like. If you yourself grew up around abuse & learned abusive techniques yourself you are just adding gasoline to fire.....not a good combination.


Sorry but I don't buy that fable that we can't help who we love. That is just an excuse & to validate themselves for staying with the wrong person.


First off one gets to REALLY know a person before falling in love & if there are serious red flags one leaves before ever getting emotionally involved. One can still use a combination of one's logical & emotional mind in picking out someone to love. Attraction to someone may exist but in no way is that love. REAL LOVE grows between 2 people out of mutual respect & common values & showing true care & committment for each other. One sided committment does NOT create REAL LOVE. Anything else is either being in love with a fantasy that one creates about the person or just infatuation.


I question that what you are feeling about this abusive person is REAL LOVE.