leomama, I think you need to understand "his" challenge better. He doesn't get back to you or respond to you in a normal way because in most cases individuals with Asperger need to be told how to respond. You have shared that you think other people are advising him and saying bad things about you. What you need to understand is that because he doesn't know how to respond to you he tends to ask others. Actually there are three different series on TV that have characters that have Asperger and in each case these characters struggle with empathy and knowing how to interact with others in relationships. There is Sheldon in the Big Bang Theory, and Young Sheldon, and The Good Doctor. Each character struggles with understanding others and having what is considered normal relationships. They are all pretty much in their own little world and it's not unusual for them to avoid interacting altogether.

Your frustration about how this individual you love is responding to you tend to lean towards you self blaming when in fact you are comparing oranges to apples. The silence isn't a game with them, instead it means they genuinely don't know how to respond. Your reasoning that you have a problem too in that you have ptsd is NOT going to change the fact that HIS problem is very different, his anger is VERY different and he is incapable of empathizing with your problem and your emotional needs.