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Originally Posted by elisewin
I find the 2-year-rule (or practise if there is no rule) really weird and a bit on a nonsense side to be perfectly honest.
Also I think there are two possible reasons he wants to keep it. Either he thinks contact is not good for you and not having it is the right thing to do professionally or he does not want to keep contact for his own reasons or. I am not suggesting he doesn't like you or such, but the reasons might be something he doesn't want to share, ever and coming from the mindset he is in atm.
I am wondering if it would be best to try to stay in touch with people that does not have limitations of any kind: friends, co-workers, people in hobbies etc. And trust that time will tell if you and T are reconnecting at some point.
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I have plenty of people I keep in touch with and talk to regularly, sometimes you just really connect with someone though... it happens.
He says the 2 year rule is for ALL clients and has always been that way for him. He does it for his own anxiety about getting in trouble, he's too paranoid about the small chance he could.
However I am glad you find it a nonsense rule too. It really is. Adults should be able to make up their own minds about such decisions.
Again, he told me he is more than willing to chat with me if we run into each other, he even joked about coming to my city more often, and he liked my dog's page soley for the purpose of keeping updates with me and my dog and he told me many many many times he is ok with me reaching out in 2 years, he will feel more comfortable then, and he promised, at least as a common courtesy to reply if I do. Even if it's just to say he isn't wanting to catch up. I don't think it's me at all. He even texted me at 945pm the night of my last session... and early the next day before he lost his phone. I believe it is just his anxiety and a professional fear he said "They drill this stuff into your mind in training and it gives you anxiety" ...I just don't get the point of it in general, like you, it seems ridiculous... although I get wanting to take time away to see if we can still "click" without the weekly sessions