I think it's an umbrella thing that is applicable to therapy in general and can, therefore, be unfitting/cruel/unfair when it comes to individual cases. I think your T seems afraid of making any "general" mistakes, so he's saying no to everybody because it's easier than considering the needs of his clients on an individual level.

I also think it's ok to question this and be angry and try to find loopholes (even merely theoretical ones). I know how hard it can be to stay away from someone you love just because you put them first and have to respect their wants/boundaries. It feels a little like you're the one who ends up hurting/sacrificing. It's not fair. Therapy may have good intentions but I don't think we are built to be ok with an ending that is neither natural nor mutually agreed. And in your case, it came both as a shock and it happened very quickly.

I've been following your posts about this and I would just like to say that I think you're dealing with this soooo much better than you probably think you are. I think you're being super brave and the fact that you are making plans for the future shows that you are strong. I think that if you keep busy, two years can fly by. Maybe not at first, but once you get used to not seeing him on a weekly basis, it will get easier.

Whatever is meant to happen, will happen. Who knows, maybe in two years you will end up being friends. Or maybe you will not and that will be ok too, because you will no longer feel the need for him as you do now. Sadly, some people are meant to be in our lives for a short amount of time, but that doesn't mean that their positive influence won't stay with us forever. From what you have said, you both shared a very intimate connection and I really don't think that he will be able to just forget that or stop caring about you.