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It's due to my bad self worth and anxiety. I even tell my best friend, whom I've known for 6 years, on a regular basis that she wont stick around and she will get sick of me. If she goes on a trip, even for a weekend, I tell her "Have fun but I am sure you will forget me" I think it's always been my way to protect myself, to hope for the best but prepare for the worst.
The sad thing is, my mom made me this way, even now, on a near daily basis, she tells me how worthless I am. The other weird part is, I know I'm a good person with good qualities, I know I am funny and kind and all that but I have a really hard time believing anyone else thinks I'm worth it.
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One of the real sadnesses here is that he robbed you of the opportunity to work on your self-development and that these insecurities and personal pains were left ignored in preference for "fun" in sessions. I think one of the reasons you are in so much pain now is that he didn't prepare you for the ending. More than not giving you enough notice and not handling the ending with kindness, he never worked with you on helping you develop the skills and inner resources to cope with endings, abandonment, grief, etc.
I suspect he simply doesn't know how to deal with endings. I think he is using the two year rule as a way to brush your pain under the carpet and postpone the uncomfortable prospect of dealing with your sadnesses and needs associated with the relationship. Basically, he is way out of his depth and as a result you are left hurting and hoping for answers, resolution, contact.