Yeah, I don't really have anything to add here except that one size doesn't fit all about anything in life. To assume a transference remains active throughout a lifetime is wrong imo. At the same time, as I think I said before on a thread, a post therapy relationship can only be as healthy as the therapy relationship. I think the combination of a person with unresolved feelings of low self-worth with one who is anxiety-ridden and shows an inability to maintain self and relationship boundaries does not bode well for a healthy future relationship.

Aside from that, while my post-therapy relationship has stood the test of time and been rewarding, it has not been all rainbows and unicorns. Much like any relationship, it's had its stresses. If either of us had been less secure as individuals, and if we hadn't had a successful therapy as the foundation, I doubt it would have survived.