His TELLING you he loves you has NOTHING to do with your getting through to him. Lots of people say they love someone but don't mean it. Actions speak louder than words & his actions sure don't say "I love you" you are just wishing they would & wishing doesn't create reality.

You excuse his bad behaviors away but hope to get back together. Why in the world would yiu even waste your time & energy on someone like that? Do you enjoy the drama yiu are creating?