I can't say that my definition or experience of intimacy has anything to do with mutual disclosures or what I know of my T outside of the room. I can see where some may connect those things to developing trust, but they just don't speak to intimacy for me.

I experience intimacy as in the moment--what happens between me and a T about what I bring to a session. Who I am and what I do outside of that moment, and who the T is and what he does outside of that moment may be relevant to the big picture, but it doesn't contribute to the intimacy I experience in the moment. I think moments of intimacy are co-created, and their effects are immediate and cumulative. I think that's why unresolved ruptures are so destructive as they palpably break intimacy, while resolved ruptures enhance intimacy and cumulatively can result in greater trust.