I love this quotation, and Adam Phillips. I read Steven Stern- Relational Psychoanalysis last week. In it, he discussed Bion saying the analyst should attend each session free of both memory and desire. All I could think of is T.S. Eliot "mixing memory and desire" while winter keeps us warm and hibernating from the feeling stirred by spring. Steven Stern proposes a theory of increasing fittedness in therapy that works. The analyst and analysand gradually approach each other, adjust to one another, and become closer to what the other one is touched by. My T thinks psychoanalysis is old fashioned, but I would like to try it.