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Originally Posted by Merope
Thanks all! My T hasn't talked about his policy on gifts etc. I think most of his clients are short-term so I don't think many would get to a point where they'd think of getting him anything. I think I'd feel too awkward to get him a gift, but I would like to give him a card. I don't mean it to be anything other than a gesture of appreciation for his continued help. I think the anxiety stems from reading rigid articles on why therapists shouldn't accept physical or symbolic gifts (hence the card worry) because they often mean more than what they are. I don't really agree with that interpretation...I mean sometimes a card is just a card. It's not like I expect him to give me the keys to his house in return. I'm definitely overthinking this. Our relationship is really good at the moment, I think I'm just worried of inserting something into it which will alter it somehow, or put him on his guard, or make him uncomfortable and therefore different with me. But then I say to myself...IT'S JUST A CARD!
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I hear you. In all my years on earth, I NEVER questioned giving a card or gift to anyone until therapy. I have grown up doing things every holiday for complete strangers, where we buy them things. I used to do therapy visits with my dogs to schools and such and would bring a box of cards and candies to give to everyone. I didnt know them. To me, it was always kindness. Nothing more.
Then therapy made it seem like you want to get in their pants if you dare have a kind gesture like that. Ridiculous indeed.
Anyway, yes, it's just a card. A gift is more debatable in therapy... but I can't see him rejecting a card. Honestly just leave it on the desk when you leave, then you don't have to worry if he rejects it but i doubt he will.