Hello Saidso and the world,

No, the three takes on being with your cooking exactly parallel what I'm getting at. In the earlier post you asked should the other person be obliged ... well, I'm not sure how that would work.

Yet, I'm continually shocked when my significant other doesn't answer my request for more play-along with more playing-along. I would consider it an ask and response, a human request and an easy request to meet.

I oblige myself to respond as asked if someone makes such a request of me. Once in a group one member needed everyone to take turns rather than speak over one another. Different styles of group interaction, neither 'better' or 'worse' than the other one. Because, really, who gets to vote? In linguistics this is called the "gap" and "overlap" style divide.

So the rest of us listened to her. She had strong cultural experiences (Native American) that raised one person speaking at a time as the norm. Guess what? The rest of us voted to shift to her style. We weren't obliged to vote that way or change our style. But we did.

That level of request and response is what I'm seeking. If both parties don't intuit a common style, if one person bring it forward, can the other(s) adjust?

This is the question and gets a fresh answer every time people are around me.

I love helping in the kitchen from prepping to putting away dishes (well, here I lie a little). In fact, today, we're doing one of our more complicated recipes and I can't delay getting started because I'm hungry.

Revu2