[QUOTE=saidso;6368878]Well, most everybody has to find employment and deal with serious stuff, whatja expect!!! but most people also need some fun and enjoyable relationships in their lives. "dire" sounds melodramatic, like what you say about the world being terrible and no one cares. You say you only come up here for being supported when you feel horrible, but you can't be that selfish cos people seem to like you very much here .

I was enjoying chatting is all. Wasn't expecting anything from you, was just something simple. Now I feel shut up, but sympathetic, and well anyway - …. I'm totally irrelevant to such a "dire" situation. Smile. See I worked for long years in a dire situation, it was just in my view something I had to do to support myself financially. It felt horrible but feelings are a short-term criteria for actions with long-term consequences. I needed a home more than I needed comfortable feelings. But then, I'm atypical for western society.

Wish you well in whatever you choose to do!

See ya around one day![/QUOTE

I don't really come on Psych Central to chat. However, I also didn't start this thread on a super heavy note. It was just about doing little things to engender generosity during the holiday. I really don't know why you are feeling offended. I certainly don't need to be lectured. Or made to feel guilty. Or told how to "do life." Again, this is Psych Central. People who come on here are dealing with mental health issues that may make others things harder to do. I have no idea why you are here but obviously you have huffed off.

This thread wasn't about advice giving...or about how to relate to feelings...or any of that.

I will remind you that personal messaging is a good way to "chat" with someone. When you go on a thread you should probably try to stick with the topic of that thread and not go off on your own tangents or, my goodness, harass or lecture the OP!

So, no, I don't want to "chat" -- this is a thread about what people might do to engender a sense of spirit when they aren't feeling it.

As far as calling my use of the word "dire" melodramatic...I might remind you that Psych Central is not about invalidating other people's sense of their own reality. Psych Central is about respect...and, I suppose...if you have something really personal to say to some it is better to use personal messaging rather than "go off" on someone on a thread. My goodness!