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Originally Posted by saidso
If you project the sadness that you feel inside onto things outside you - like deer being knocked by a car and finding a job, the consequence is that you will feel like you are going nuts. You will also miss out on being surprised by lovely people here.
Being gentle with feelings helps to heal, but good parenting holds a child's strong feelings in a safe place where life can go on externally. We learn to do that by trial and error or else everyone will go crazy. You know that.
When I'm mixing up my feelings and outside stuff is usually because I've been triggered into old ways of coping.
Now I really will shut up!
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Hey, do you have a Secret Santa tip? Because that's
the topic of this thread. I am sorry you got ME off track as well. Save your psycho-babble for some other thread. This is about Secret Santa stuff. I was suggesting people not text in their cars as a nice Secret Santa gesture. I used deer getting injured as an example because I didn't want to get into the fact that texting in cars has become a
MAJOR cause of human fatalities. And it is so simple, like, people, when you are driving just drive.