I remember the first time I was so painfully angry at T, and I said "I feel like telling you I hate you." He said, "so tell me." I was hesitant, but that was the start of me allowing myself to be more honest and emotional with him. I don't think I ever felt safe enough to tell someone I hated them before. For me, I think it has been helpful to be able to feel (and act) hurt, angry and emotional, and to start to realize that he isn't going to go anywhere because of it.

I do think there are limits, and you need to treat your T like a human being, not a punching bag. But I think a good T should allow a place for feelings like this.