I have always thought (but have no evidence of this) that the two year "rule" or "best practice" really had more to do with sexual relationships rather than friendships or just keeping in touch. I really don't understand why someone can't or shouldn't update their former T if the former T is okay with it. So I don't really understand the "best practice" on that. That being said, my former T who I terminated with in Sept. said I could email her sometimes to update her and I have a few times. She takes a lot longer to respond than when I was in therapy with her (then again on the other hand we had to stop because she got MS and I don't know how her disease has progressed since I last saw her) but knowing that she is there and reading what I write her, when I choose to and eventually she responds with something short but encouraging has been helpful in the grieving the end of our relationship. I'm not as sad, but I'm still sad. I'm not still crying, but I did a lot of crying. I don't know if I'm answering the original OP question, just sort of morphed into what I experienced. However I saw this T for 10 years. Other T's I've seen, I didn't have further contact with after termination. And I was okay with that. Kit