and your ex T will do either what he feels is right for him in two years or ( perhaps if he is a good T) what is right for you. I have no idea what that is or looks like , but your options are largely defined by his permissions and what really lies in his heart. You don't have any more power in the situation 2 years from now than the one now.

I'm not going to comment anymore bc I doubt it is welcome, but I do wish you well as a fellow dog-adorer. I am getting too caught up in the idea of any guy/ human having this much power, that he maybe got by unfair means.