Hi AgnieB,

I can imagine how hard it is to be in a situation like this. But first off, I would like to make sure to you, that you are very welcome to this forum, as I know everyone else will say the same thing to you later. This place is where many of us call home, we all have experience of find comfort, support and good advice from others on this forum. All the folks here are suffering from some sorts of mental difficulties or hard situations, so we all know how important to get support, that's why when we see others in such need, we all come for the job. I do hope you come often and feel free to express yourself, whatever it is, let it out... and I'm sure you will make much contribution as well... I'm also sure that you will find here a wonderful place to be and the people are very loving too... Let me extend my hands to you, and give you a very warm welcome hug (((((((((AngieB))))))))))))))

You didn't say much about your feeling about this guy, so I don't know how do you plan with your next step on this matter, keep staying with him? or break up with him? It's very obvious that this guy is not doing you any good, and you certainly don't deserve to be treated like this. Do you love him? What is good about him? I think if you just got monetary lost because of him, that's easier to get over, but do not let him to harm you more on your mental health. I feel you are a good hearted and wonderful young lady, you got to stand up for yourself when some assholes stepped on you... I know how you feel, I had some problems with guy issues before...

Take control of your life, get rid of him if he makes you going down like this... sometimes us women have a tendency of being nice and kind, but our kindness is often being taken as weaknesses... You need to stay away from him if you can't control his violence breaking out. So he blackmailed you on this house rent issue, yeah? what? He traded this with a promise that he is never gonna to raise hands on you? Sorry, I'm just guessing, and trying to figure out what is this guy's intention... pls don't feel offended... but one thing I can tell you, it's also many abuse survivors said, the abusive ones abuse you once, there will always be next times...

AngieB, do you have some close friends around you who you can share this with? It's hard to fight by yourself, since your family is far away... I don't know what else to say can make you feel better. It seems there is a decision for you to make... Please take care of yourself as much as you can. I think it's a good idea to get legal help, hope things will work out, and most importantly, you will be able to get over from the crap, and go on with your life, your future is more important!!

((((((((more hugs 4 u))))))))))))

Best,
Toni

[i] What our mind can conceive and believe, it will achieve.