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Originally Posted by thebittenpeach
Christmas are crazy for people who are alone and not in the romantic relationships.
When I'm out with people, I feel like nothing bad is happening to me. Until I see a couple or something related to romance. I get self-pity internally. Plus, now I don't really have a chance to go out with people. And the feeling is the worst when I am alone.
But now I am starting to see that perhaps we don't belong together and then I get a feeling that if I don't go into a relationship now, I would have to wait for another 4 years to meet someone and I cannot just possibly imagine that.
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Christmas really does magnify these feelings--movies, churches, commercials, etc. have ramped up our expections and events like Christmas and New Years Eve seem to call for a partner to kiss and share warmth with.
My recommendation is to see if you can find a date for these days but don't settle. That date could be a friend rather than the "one". When I was single, I can remember a few dates on these days with someone I was not in love with but the memory of sharing that day with them is still a wonderful memory. Could you either ask someone new out or the friend who is destined to be just a friend? There are other people out there feeling as you do. Even if they are destined to be just a friend, asking someone out who is also single might be a nice distraction and could make them feel good too. Concentrate on making someone else feel good and maybe you will forget your own troubles.
Once the holidays have passed, these feelings will be less intense. I agree with Ennie that you can use this time to develop yourself in other ways like studying (if you are in school), working, hobbies, etc.
You are young so hopefully, someday, you will meet the right person. The best way to increase the odds of that happening is to do things that have you "out there" meeting other people all of the time. I have been married 31 years and met my husband at work.