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The 8 years he started with was an arbitrary amount of time he chose because he figured that was long enough that it would give you no hope of resuming contact. However, it sounds like you did not accept this and went looking for information to basically undermine him and pressure him into changing his position.
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Actually, I emailed because that was the SECOND time he gave a different answer and I had read many things online that conflicted, I wanted to know what the real answer was.... what a crime to actually try to get facts! He was not mad at all, he actually thanked me for reaching out to the proper license place. He admitted he wasn't completely sure what the rules were anymore, he was trying to "remember" what schooling had said. He looked into it himself and told me that email answer was accurate. He has massive anxiety/paranoia about getting in trouble, and always has, it's hugely why he panicked about would say whatever or get defensive when we discussed this. He also once changed boundaries on me and it lasted a week.
also I held on to that email for about 7.5 months. I never said a word about even sending it or what they said, I let it all go.... until the end. I apologized for doing it and he was fine with it... but again, assumptions....
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Finally, I feel that your comment about not reporting because "it's not the kind of person you are" needs to be addressed. I don't intend to put words in your mouth, but that could be interpreted as casting people who do report their therapists in a negative light. I've never heard someone say "it's not the kind of person I am" when referring to something good, so I just feel like it's worth saying that there's nothing wrong with reporting unethical therapists, and doing so does not make the client a certain "kind of person" to stand in contrast to those who don't report.
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Ummm, why does EVERY thing someone says on here have to be analyzed to the smallest degree? Good grief. I never said anything bad about people who do, if someone feels they want to report, go for it, if that,s what they need.
I am not that kind of person was meaning, I HATE drama and anything involving me having to get roped into some legal stuff. If I didn't, my mom would be in jail by now.... this thread gives me a headache. I regret posting it. I feel like I'm saying the same thing over and over and constantly having to explain myself.
The bottom line is... I am NOT stupid... I am well aware that "nothing" could happen in the future... BUT I'm not also 100% hopeless, I know him, you guys don't.... and I believe he's a decent enough person to respond, if nothing else. We will see what time has in store. None of us know what tomorrow brings, let a lone two years. I have plenty of things planned in my life to keep my busy. I am not planning to sit around for two years and obsess over this. Thankfully I've got 3 friends who have been very supportive of me through this.... plus my dog. I'll be ok.