A few years ago during my first year with T, I was traveling and I mailed her letters by snail mail. Maybe 4. I got charged a session and a half for those. I was bummed by how much she charged for just reading those letters.

But now after so many years, I think she knows me better and knows I won't abuse the privilege. I had one incident in which I must have sent her 30 texts within 3 or 4 hours. She finally called me to check that I was o.k. No charge for that.

Now I email more than text...at her suggestion. Probably because it's easier to read and it's easier to write more.

I don't email often but just last week we had an ongoing exchange by email. It was very helpful. I know she isn't doing therapy by email. Our exchange was more about sharing information.

I think any phone calls we've had have been initiated by her because of her concern for me. Just 2 or 3 in 8 years.

I try very hard not to abuse my access to her. The understanding is that she won't reply unless I specifically ask her to reply. But, I'm so thankful she usually replies anyway.