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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Yes, I think that's why I'm having trouble figuring out how to feel about it (it also arrived a half hour before I was leaving to meet my dad for Christmas shopping--home now). It's somewhere between what I really wanted him to say, but knew he wouldn't ("I'm sorry I hurt you") and what I was afraid he'd say ("Please don't contact me again" or some form of that). I don't think it really gave me "the fix" that T was talking about. I think it would be easier to figure out how to react to if it was one of those extremes.
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That goes back to who is in control of the relationship, thats where you get your fix.
When he said to you on the phone that day, "ive got two minutes", and you said no - you pretty much declared war. Thats what i think you dont get. You effectively said that YOU were calling the shots, not him. So of course therapy ended at that point. How do you not see that? How do you see that as him hurting you?
Its HIS practice, HIS license - YOU dont call the shots. If he says we have two minutes, you have two minutes. Otherwise you are breaking the contract. Thats why if you want back in, YOU apologize, not him.