Quote:
Originally Posted by Ididitmyway
I never had such instances when my therapists objected my decisions. It's not like they always supported everything I did, but they were mostly neutral. They mostly tried to understand the feelings and motives behind my decisions, but that never felt like disapproving what I was doing.
But, at the same time, I usually consulted with them before making important decisions. I thought that's what therapy was for among other things. Sometimes, their perspective on a specific situation was different from mine and I appreciated when they shared it because it allowed me to look at things from a different angle and change my mind in regards to what decision to take. But, again, that never felt like they were imposing their agenda on me.
Whenever my mind was settled on something they never argued with me and never suggested to do something else. They usually would just ask me how it felt to have my mind made up.
I think, they have dealt with it exactly how therapists are supposed to. It's not their role to tell clients what to do. They can work with you on helping you better understand what you need, but when you know what you need, it's not their place to tell you otherwise.
The only exceptions to this rule are when the client wants to do something illegal or obviously immoral. Those are the times when the therapist can and should voice their objections strongly.
|
Thanks, I think I expected her response to be more neutral, because I didn't bring it up as a question or topic for advice. Now I'm realizing it's as if she has her own priorities for me in some ways. I wish she didn't respond in such an opposing manner, because I didn't quite as for advice, I think I wanted reassurance, now I feel like I'm trying to convince her... and that just makes me no longer want to see her.