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Originally Posted by Wild at heart
I told my T some stuff the last two weeks, and afterwards felt that my therapy would be over (that she would reject me). But when I went back it was as if I'd told something quite normal. What a relief to be accepted. I think she is oblivious to this. I don't think I need to tell her. Anyway if she's going to approach each session 'without memory', does not sharing it matter?
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I've read this a few times and still don't understand. Why do you think the T is oblivious? Because she did not reject you or saw what you shared in a similarly dramatic way? Was there a sign that she did not remember it actually?
Re: the question in the thread title, I absolutely don't think everything needs to be shared/talked about in therapy. My understanding is that many Ts follow a strategy to only discuss issues when the client initiates it, they would not bring it up unless asked directly to bring it up. I am not sure how true this is, because I had a T, for example, who was very initiative, but he generally followed how I responded to his initiatives. I liked it because it did make me feel he remembered and was interested but I was free to take it further or not. That approach can also help to stay focused, if that's important to someone. My other T never initiated anything in session. But I never for a second felt that I should talk about everything with my Ts, or even anything I don't want to.