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Originally Posted by Anne2.0
What your T said about deprivation really pings with me. I'm not sure that self deprivation is not the same thing as self harm in many ways. But it's not all the time that we can give ourselves what we desire, and despite the old Brit stiff upper lip thing, I'm not sure how this benefits you other than the desire to stick with the plan you've laid out (I think your move has created physical distance to T's and it takes longer).
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This concept was at the core of my thread the other day about self-punishment. Is denying ourselves something we want because of some obscure reason (such as sticking to a plan or simply because we can) a form of self-punishment or self-harm? How do we figure out which is most "helpful" for us, given the concepts of distress tolerance, intrusion (being too much), 'crying wolf', stiff upper lip, adulting/childish, 'cutting off nose' and so on?
I can make myself do X or Y, but at what cost or benefit? And how do I know the difference?
Sorry if I am going off thread. I'm really struggling with this at the moment and my window to make decisions is getting smaller.