Avoid making it too personal for the other person, so they won't feel hurt, LiteraryLark. Just refer to yourself if there's an issue. Also if you have the slightest doubt about something you're going to say, just think of the most correct and polite way of saying it in your opinion. Most importantly, if you DO end up saying something inappropriate, you can always apologize and clarify later! Also remember that you're not completely responsable for other people's feelings. You could be very kind and tactful, but someone may still feel hurt. I think it's important to remember that. Sending many hugs to you