Your post and another that was in a similar vein once again make me think PC should consider having a forum for people to discuss graphic sex acts while at the same time discussing their relationship. This is clearly how some people view relationships: as a series of physical acts. Having a forum where newcomers can post their sexual stories would be a way to gather them all together and to find support among other like-minded people.

If you want to know if your husband considers himself homosexual, ask him. Of course he could deny being homosexual and still actually be homosexual. He could also be a person who wants sex whenever and with whomever and however he wants it without regard to there being a label placed upon it.

There are men--and women--and every human permutation in between--who relate to other humans sexually as their primary means of relating. This may be what you are dealing with.

It seems to me you are coming from some sort of background that has different ideas about the nature of a marriage (or primary relationship). It also seems to me that whatever counseling you have had hasn't helped, particularly whoever it was who put you on medication at the request of someone else and without proper diagnosis. Passive aggression is ultimately self-defeating although you might not realize that until very far down the road. Nevertheless I invite you to consider saying forthrightly what you want, and formulating a plan in your own mind and heart about what you will do when you don't get it. I speculate you will not get a satisfactory response from your husband.

What does this mean? Start planning for a life without him. There is no need to "disconnect" from the children you brought into the world. Regardless of your husband's orientation and your feelings about it, the children are the helpless victims here of your dysfunctional relationship. Instead of disconnecting from them, model for them what a healthy parent does when life hands them a curveball: find work that is fulfilling, develop friendships that are rewarding, encourage the children to study and play healthfully and allow them to have as healthy a relationship as they can with their father until or unless he does something that puts them in jeopardy.

Your husband isn't in control of whether you have faith or not; regardless of how you view how he expresses himself. Another healthy thing to model for your children is holding your own well-thought out ideas and not blaming others for what you do or do not believe.

For me; I wouldn't want a 'life-partner' who wanted to "hang out" (either vertically or horizontally) with multiple other crushes (male or female) and I would have zero interest in anyone who thought of me as merely a receptacle for sexual release. You will need to decide for yourself what you do or do not want--and proceed accordingly.

I wish you and your children the best. I am guessing your husband will land on his feet no matter what, given his track record of getting his own way--time to let him get his own way--without using you to do it. Ya think?