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Originally Posted by Elio
This concept was at the core of my thread the other day about self-punishment. Is denying ourselves something we want because of some obscure reason (such as sticking to a plan or simply because we can) a form of self-punishment or self-harm? How do we figure out which is most "helpful" for us, given the concepts of distress tolerance, intrusion (being too much), 'crying wolf', stiff upper lip, adulting/childish, 'cutting off nose' and so on?
I can make myself do X or Y, but at what cost or benefit? And how do I know the difference?
Sorry if I am going off thread. I'm really struggling with this at the moment and my window to make decisions is getting smaller.
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I don't know if it's a form of self punishment.
Or a testing to see how far T will go to reach me even. Not saying it's that at all. But it's on the table which all the other cards.
I can go back to twice a week. Logistically its a pain.
I truly do want to see if this is just a grief stage and when I'm settled into once a week. I'll be ok.
I guess for me, it's not important whether it's self punishment or not as I'm use to that.
Is important I see exactly where I am in time.