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Old Dec 20, 2018, 12:00 PM
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Originally Posted by NP_Complete View Post
My therapist had an idea once that worked out really well. He asked me to write down things to talk about on slips of paper (I used post it notes) and he would keep them in a container. When we got stuck, he and I would agree to pull one out of the container and discuss them. There's currently only one left in the container and it's something really painful for me to talk about, but he knows it's there and he knows that it's not something I take lightly to talk about. I wonder if something similar would work for you. Your therapist would know that there are things you're having trouble talking about and you could work together to bring them out into the open. I'm actually convinced he knows what that last slip contains but we talk around it. I trust him that he hasn't read it before I've given him permission to read it.
This is absolutely brilliant. I love it!!

OP - I used to be afraid to bring things up with my therapist. I worked on trust - because I found that it meant I didn’t really trust him. Once I got to a point of trusting him, it became a lot easier.

Do you have the option to email or text? I used to send an email or text that started with “I’m really scared to tell you this but...”. And then I’d just blab it. And then we’d talk about it in session - but he always left it up to me to bring it up (which drove me crazy because I really wanted him to bring it up - but he was honouring my freedom and right to direct the therapy).

Now I find him really easy to talk to about anything and everything. But I had to learn to trust him first.
Thanks for this!
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