With ex-T, it was a long time (like 4 years) before there was ever a hug. I think the first one she offered me was a "holiday hug" before Christmas, which I accepted. Maybe then she offered me one after a really tough session. A few times after, I requested one, but always felt awkward about it, but she always said yes.

Current T doesn't hug (he said this in the very beginning). He shook my hand after the first session. At the next session, at the end, I asked if he regularly shakes hands, or just after the first session. He said it's up to the client. I said I wanted to shake hands, so he holds out his hand to me at the end of each session (unless one of us is sick). I'm content with hand-shaking--it seems a nice compromise between no touch at all and hugs.