My abusive and neglectful mother died almost 4 years ago. I don't miss her because I still have not recovered from her abuse.

To my continued dismay, members of the family still tell me repeatedly how much they miss her and what a good mother she was. That "good" mother never fed her kids breakfast because it was an "unnecessary" meal. She never hugged her kids and gave advice that was always self-serving, e.g., "your problem is that you don't do enough for others."

I have bitten my tongue for many years in order to have some family. It's not easy being unable to express my feelings.