Hi,
I really struggle with trying to be “normal” when my common law partner drinks. He likes to come home after work and have one drink. Maybe two. If he spends time with people there is usually some drinking. I begin to feel nervous or sometimes I even get a stronger feeling like he is not for me because our goals are obviously misaligned. I strive to be healthy and that doesn’t involve that kind of drinking. I judge him. If I say anything it upsets him. He knows my Dad was a violent alcoholic and thinks I am projecting. I struggle with not knowing what is normal or not. I have no healthy gauge. I could be letting it ruin my ability to have healthy relationships. Anyone have similar feelings they have to cope with? Suggestions for coping? Some logic to cling to? Or am I right?