Simlar situation although lots more years in the marriage and my then husband was a lazy selfish toad. I left in the end and married the man I really loved, I had children but I was tired of living a lie and couldnt stay any more.

Its the best thing I have ever done even for my children who now have a dad who is a real dad not a dad when it suits him.

Life is too short and you only get one shot at it .......