Maybe 6 months into my relationship with exT, she hugged me for the first time. She’s the only T that I’ve ever had physical contact with of any sort. I liked it a lot. She initiated. I had off-handedly mentioned how I felt like I needed a hug in my writing that week, but I was more thinking of my boyfriend at the time. I had done really well behavior-wise that week and had been putting a lot of work into therapy, and she was really proud of me, so she gave me a hug as a sort of a reward. We ended up hugging 3 more times in the year I saw her. Once as a congrats after getting into med school, and twice on her last day before she left for her new job.

I’m not sure if I’ll ever want current T to hug me...right now it would feel weird...there’s one of my former Ts that I really would’ve wanted a hug from, I’m sure I could’ve hugged her on the day I left if I wanted, I was just too afraid to ask.