You're not being selfish at all, shyBoldgirl88. Your concerns are very valid and I think this is something that needs to be discussed with him. Communication is very important in a relationship and the fact that he refuses to talk with you is already a major red flag... I think you should try to give him one last chance to listen to you and talk about this. Otherwise, I think you may want to reconsider this relationship. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Please don't give up. I hope you'll feel better soon. Sending many hugs to you